Monday, August 15, 2016

Healthy Relationship


Here are a few of those things that I've learned do seem to say something about the strength of your union:

You Speak Your Mind

Relationships thrive when couples can express themselves freely and honestly. That means no topic is off-limits, and you both feel heard. Consistent communication is vital to building a lasting life together.


You Have Your Own Space

Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean you have to spend every moment together. Taking time to pursue your own interests and friendships keeps your relationship fresh and gives you both the opportunity to grow as individuals—even while you’re growing as a couple.  

You Fight

Disagreements are normal, so if you aren’t fighting, chances are you’re holding back. But when people in healthy relationships fight, they fight productively and fairly. That means avoiding name-calling or put-downs. It also means striving to understand your partner instead of trying to score points. And when you’re wrong? You apologize.

You Like Yourself And Your Partner

Chances are your relationship won’t suddenly get better if you win the lottery, have a baby, or move into your dream house. So don’t base your partnership on the hope that it will change. You recognize that neither of you is perfect, and you accept and value each other for who you are right now—not who you might become.

You Make Decisions Jointly

You don’t call all the shots. Neither does your partner. From what movie to see to how many children to have, you make decisions together and listen to each other’s concerns and desires. Sure, this may mean you see Transformers on Saturday night. But on Sunday night, it’s your turn.

You Find Joy

Healthy relationships are full of laughter and fun. This doesn’t mean you’re giddy every hour of the day—or that she doesn’t drive you up the wall sometimes—but it does mean that your life together is mostly happy in sometimes simple ways. (Making dinner, laughing at the same things, finishing each others’ sentences…)

You Find Balance

Sometimes your partner needs to work longer hours while you play chauffeur and chief cook. Or you must devote time to an elderly parent while your spouse tackles the chores. That’s life. What matters is that, in the long run, your trade-offs seem fair.

You Treat Each Other With Kindness

Nothing is more important than treating the person you love with care, consideration, empathy, and appreciation. If you find yourself showing more respect to people you hardly know than you show your partner, take a step back and revisit your priorities.

You Trust Each Other

Healthy relationships are built on trust and a commitment to communication without reservations or secrets. Want to know how much you trust each other now? Take this quiz  

You Let Things Go

Your partner will annoy you. You will annoy him or her, too. You will say things you don’t mean. You will behave inconsiderately. The important thing is how you deal with all this. So he forgot to pick up milk for the second time? Tell him you’re disappointed, of course—then let it go.

You Are Intimate

Sex is an important part of healthy relationships, but it’s only one part, and it’s different than intimacy, which is less about physical satisfaction than about bonding, friendship, and familiarity. If you’re in a healthy relationship, you’ll feel connected—in and out of bed.

Your Relationship Is Your Safe Place

Your relationship should be a safety net—a stable place to come home to at the end of the day. That doesn’t mean you don’t fight—it just means that when things are hard, you’d rather see your partner than commiserate with coworkers at Happy Hour.

You Talk To Your Partner, Not To Other People

When you have issues and concerns, you share them with your partner, not your Facebook friends. You can use pals as a sounding board, of course, but not as a crutch to avoid hard conversations with your significant other.

You Say The Magic Words

 “I love you”, “Thank you,” and “I’m sorry.” 

By: Devon Corneal

Friday, June 24, 2016

Weird Al Bangavitch Beats shine on Dread Sxott X Unifeyed Society EP "The Message"

Weird Al Bangavitch beat production on Dread Sxott  X Unifeyed Society EP "The Message" will remind listeners of 90s hip hop but yet fresh and new the first release was "Elevated" featuring Dread Sxott and his Unified Society members. This sound Weird Al Bangavitch has crafted over the years has become distinct and could be considered another form of hip hop sound offering from Cream City aka Milwaukee, W.I.  his most recent productions "God Rest" and "Beloved" on artist HoJoe album "Confound" and previous work are somethings to check for. Weird Al Bangavitch's production on "The Message" leaves listeners much more to look forward too.


Sunday, March 6, 2016

Poetry: "I Made it" by: J. Monique



I Made It!
I've survived living in a house full of hatred
Surrounded by daggers of venomous words; painful actions
Too hard to forgive and never to forget
Yet I made it!
Through the hate I found God, and in God I learned love
I had to separate myself from the hatred in order for me to grow
I have no regrets for my actions, because the hatred forced my hand
I did what I had to do. And here I proudly stand!
God has forgiven me and cleansed me of my sins
I am making peace with my past, so that my future has a fighting chance
Change is all around me and I am loving the adaptation
I am no longer the young woman that I used to be
I made it. Yep I made it!

Copyright ( c ) 2016 J. Monique 

Thursday, January 28, 2016

Wes Ambush Beats Presents: Portarok"Swordz Up" Album

Wes Ambush Beats drops album "Swordz Up" with Bronx artist Portarok. Wes is such a solid producer crafting a album of sonic sounds that are full of rich canvases for Portarok to attack with a dark voice of strength and pain. "Swordz Up" is full of grueling subs, and boom bap production.